Housekeeping is an important part of life, and demonstrating it early helps foster independent life skills among the next gen. The #1 rule to keep in mind: Don’t expect too much when you’re initiating a chore routine. Set goals that are achievable, whether the child is 2 or 12 so that they can find success and enjoy the sense of accomplishment. We know that cleaning can be annoying and frustrating and certainly less fun than other tasks, but do what you can to make it fun, and your little helpers will shine.

Engaging kids in the process early can be important for a number of reasons:

• chores hold children accountable for their own messes
• it’s quality “together time”
• chore assignments help to show how everyone in a family can work together
• and, quite simply, chores teach good habits

Chore assignments don’t need to be backed by monetary rewards; they can be positioned as a simple part of the family routine. They’re something everyone can partake in, based on their individual skill levels. Kids are often trying to do what the big kids and adults do, so set a pattern for housekeeping early, and they’ll be more interested in leveling up as they grow. (This is my daughter helping us install an underground wire fence – she had so much fun filling the grass back over the wire, and placing flags along the path.)

At what age should you start letting kids help with chores?

It’s never too early. Even mobile one-year-olds can begin to follow simple tasks (i.e. “Put your shoes by the door,” “put your sweatshirt on the hook.”) They’ll continue to be eager to be “helpers” throughout many aspects of your life. If you start early with small, easy to comprehend, achievable tasks, it really helps to set expectations of responsibility.

Children are inherently interested in cleaning and organization, since it’s what they see adults do, and especially when young, they’re very eager to help because it means more time spent doing meaningful activities together.

What methods of positive reinforcement work for kids?

We’re not talking “allowance” or monetary rewards here – for the sake of simplicity, it’s fair to preach that chores are an expectation in a shared household, and if you live in the house, you should contribute.

That said, recognizing a child’s accomplishments is rewarding to them and boosts their self-esteem. Tell your child that they did a great job organizing their closet and explain what you like about it. Appreciate how the table is set for dinner, or how the toys are cleaned up from the living room rug. Acknowledge if they do chores without being asked.

How many chores are too many chores?

Parents, you’ll be walking a tightrope in determining the right amount of balance. It depends on the child – on their attitudes, their small motor skills, to how they respond to positive reinforcement. Don’t assign so many tasks that you’re setting them up for failure, but slowly add more responsibility as they gain confidence and show interest in doing more around the house.

What chores are good for different age groups?

As they get older, some of the early chores will become more ingrained as an ordinary expectation. Here are examples as to how you can evolve chore responsibilities as your child gets older.

Toddlers and Preschoolers (2-4)

• putting laundry in the laundry basket; garbage into the garbage can
• matching socks
• putting away clothing (placing folded items in baskets or drawers)
• cleaning up after playtime
• using a dustpan and brush to clean up (have low expectations – this is more for general coordination and motor skills)
• two words: Dry mopping
• re-wrapping the long vacuum cord after use
• setting the table (let them select the placemats and napkins – and don’t worry if it’s mismatched)
• putting books on accessible bookshelves
• washing dishes (non-breakable items, assisted by an adult, while standing on a stool)
• disinfecting doorknobs, light switches and low cabinets pulls

Early Elementary (4-7)

• folding and putting away laundry (introduce hangers)
• folding bathroom towels and dish towels
• stuffing pillowcases
• caring for pets (brushing and helping with feeding schedules)
• getting all of the “little things” off the carpet before it gets vacuumed
• setting table (introduce positioning of silverware; also, still okay if the placemats are mismatched)
• opening curtains or blinds in the morning
• raking leaves or shoveling snow in small areas (let them be your assistant)
• washing dishes (assisted by an adult, while standing on a stool)
• unloading silverware from dishwasher (assisted by a parent; separate the forks, spoons, and butter knives for the child to organize into drawer dividers.)
• cleaning up after playtime
• outdoor chores, such as cleaning up sticks in the yard (I ask my kids to drag lightweight sticks into a pile nearby our fire pit – huge help!)
• harvesting garden produce

Later Elementary (8-10)

• cleaning windows and mirrors
• cleaning the bathroom sink-top and bathtub
• folding and putting away personal laundry (it can be an independent chore by this age; simply hand off a basket of their clean laundry and encourage them to organize their belongings their way)
• raking leaves or shoveling snow in small areas independently
• sweeping and vacuuming floors
• dusting windowsills, open shelves, vanities
• stripping bed linens
• taking out garbage bags or recycling
• setting the table and clearing after meals
• outdoor chores, such as pulling weeds and transplanting

Tweens (11-12)

• dusting hard-to-reach areas with the help of a step stool
• walking pets
• lawn mowing (we love a great battery-powered motor for this age; the kind that push starts with the touch of a button but turns off as soon as the hand lever is released for safety)
• stripping bed linens, re-making bedspread
• washing dishes or loading dishwasher (unassisted)
• outdoor chores, such as spreading mulch and planning a garden space

Teenagers (13-17)

• full bathroom cleaning, especially if they have their own space (toilet too!)
• mopping floors
• washing, drying and folding their own laundry
• washing dishes or loading dishwasher (unassisted)
• all outdoor chores – including mowing, snow blowing, gardening, and landscaping (sign them up to help elderly neighbors too!)